Why Have Casual Sex?
Why have casual sex? For one, it is the novelty. Having sex with someone new brings a level of excitement that previous partners do not share, and casual intimacy enables us to have that feeling over and over, again.
Some might also choose to be sexually active with someone they are attracted to—before getting to know them on an emotional level—just to find out whether sexual chemistry exists. If not, they will move on before pursuing something more serious and lasting.
"Each person is an individual, with a unique life history and emotional makeup, so each person is likely to respond differently to casual sexual behavior," says clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Robert Weiss, Ph.D., MSW. "If you find that you are questioning your sexual behavior (or lack thereof), perhaps the best guide is your own conscience."
Many of us end up being open to (and commencing) a more serious relationship once we discover that we not only enjoy the sex, but we also like our sexual partners as people—after spending time together, going on unofficial dates, and getting to know one another. In this way, an emotional bond is often the catalyst for something more serious, and a committed relationship may be the next step.
It is also fair to say, romantic or not, the very act of sexual intercourse inspires us to partner up. After all, you are already attracted to this partner, and you enjoy being intimate with them.